Who am I trying to kid here? It failed from the start, but I continued to ignore reality. I asked, "Give me one; All I ask is just ONE good reason why I shouldn't throw everything I held true in my heart away?" And he couldn't think of any.
Stay strong girl. Whatever it is I hope you're ok. I know that we may not know what's really going on but we're here for you ok. I want you to know that I am always here and can be all ears. Sorry that sometimes I may not know what to say but I am here as a friend, SIL, and a sister in christ. We all fall short at some point and when we need to get back up, don't hesitate just get right back up.
We need another night out girl. What are you doing Friday? I'm thinking about going to see Joyce Meyers at the Xcel. I think Mai's going so if you want too let's plan on going.
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pahoua
7/7/2010 01:00:58 pm
I want to go too, but I work! But Saturday i'm not working, but again I really need to save. I've been spending like crazy.
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minnie
7/7/2010 01:13:43 pm
I'm waiting for his answer first before I spill his beans. My heart can't take any more pain. He thinks a simple apology is something that'll justify what he did. His actions have spoken. None of his words are true. And finally, I can say its all bs coming out of his mouth. I've been so hurt, there's nothing I have left to say and question anymore. I just want to curl away and cry my eyes out, find closure, get over it and move on with my life.
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pahoua
7/7/2010 02:29:09 pm
so what really happened? I understand it's hard to go through this, but you are not alone, God is the key to everything you and Bro-inlaw needs. Even now I get mad at Doua, but I will always remember I need to keep going for myself and for the boys. Doua gets on my nerves. I'm serious people says all marriages have it's ups and downs. But it doesn't have to be that way. I think what you need is to not be so smart. Guys doesn't like that. You need to go at your lowest and pour out what you need to say to he.
for example:
I told DOua I was in Special Ed. I was the dumbest girl ever,i had you do my math homework, i just couldn't get anything. .. but inside of me were laughers plus a breakthrough from being soo smart! I actually made him felt so sorry that he had to listen to me pour out my weakness.. but yeap i did it! hehehe,"i'm serious it works.
If he shows no sympathy, yeah there is something wrong that he doesn't care. But remember what you said, it's not us that can't adjust to marriage, it's alittle harder for them to.
What's going on? Don't let it get to you. LMK! and it'll pray for you two. there's really nothing I could do. that's the honest truth, it's you that needs to do something, and divorce and cheating ain't gonna help it. But yall know, i ain't gonna lie, I did hit the strip club when i'm upset. Dont do it! you're regret it! Not by lying to your hubby, but GOD! We all need to get right with Him! He is looking down and loving us. Let us gently pray for one another and just love and spread His words, and as Husbands and wives, life just gets easier.
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pahoua
7/7/2010 02:32:11 pm
too much typo. just read it, i gotta go before i'm OT! they're getting strict! xoxo-pa