If you're single, do you find it hard to focus on your relationship with Christ instead of your singleness? If you're in a relationship, do you find it hard to focus as much on your relationship with Christ as you do with your significant other?
I remembered before I got married, I kept on compromising with God saying that I will commit truthfully once I get my life going, or once I'm settled with my husband, I'll work on my relationship with God. Well, to be honest, my walk with God hasn't improved yet. I'm still where I was at years ago when I met Christ.
When I was single, I was struggling with the wonders of loneliness. I wanted to be complete and happy with somebody who'll understand me and enjoys my company. When I met my husband, I thought my life will be complete. I was aware of arguments and fights, but was not aware of my strength for it. I must be honest. Not much has changed since my status went from "single" to "taken." There's still that loneliness gap I get when my hubby lacks the duty of fulfilling it. Being in a relationship, I must admit is extremely hard. Without God's grace, who knows if my marriage would have lasted. Once you go from being single to attachment, expectations of fulfilling loneliness is high. And when the attention is gone, our misery sinks back up.
When two couples are not on the same page, that affects their relationship with God as a whole. I hate the word or term jealousy. But in some way, I'm always guilty of allowing it to be swooped into my life with my husband. Love does not consist of jealousy. I would say that I am doing better at controlling it; but at times it's hard, especially when I'm the only one doing the job at watching my daughter, why he always gets to do this or that, why his faith with God isn't as good as mine, or sometimes vise versa. Jealousy can get the best of me! The only way to help me cope is to remember what God wants us to remember. We only live once and we're going to spend the rest of our life with that only someone. Why would I waste my life down to a bad relationship? I should continue to work at it constantly and not give up because he's worth it! No other person can love him like I do. I believe that once you become a couple, you're assinged the job of making sure that person will be saved. So being single and being in a relationship has it's struggles. Apart from all of our struggles, we need Jesus.
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Originally posted December 7, 2009, by Ani
Recently, I read a great post about how one single girl connects Taylor Swift's song, "You Belong with Me," to how Jesus is the one singing us that song. She concludes that He is our Mr. Perfect and that we are only complete as singles when we seek after Him. I definitely have to shout an Amen to that.
This is exactly how I thought (most of the time) when I was single. I had read a great quote in a book once that said,"Being in a relationship will never complete you. Completion is Jesus' responsibility. Complementing is a woman's privilege" (my paraphrase). I recited this to all the girls at our church continuously, and tried to remember it as often as possible. Jesus definitely was my #1, and He was the one who completed me. He brought me joy and fulfillment, and being single was not a big deal. I enjoyed it!
When I am not depending on Christ, whether single or taken, I am a mess. This will never change. I feel lonely, sad, frustrated, angry, annoyed, etc. I need Him to edify me and remind me of the joy that I have in Him. He needs to work in my heart, and He needs to fulfill me yet again. No one else can do that. Experiencing the love of someone that you love is so precious. Experiencing the love of your God is life-changing. Nothing can compare to it.
I actually think I need Jesus more now than I did when I was single. Loving someone is hard work. It takes a lot out of you. You constantly need the love of Jesus pouring into you, so that you may be able to continue to give. Also, you get disappointed at times, and your needs are not met. That is when you need Jesus the most! The person you love may be great, but they are still human. However, our God is one unlike any other. He is the same yesterday, today, and forever. Therefore, He is never going to change. If my boyfriend fails to be there for me at a certain time, I will still be alright. I know that I can count on Jesus to be there for me always.
So, being single is definitely hard, but not much will change after you get into a relationship. So, please, I am begging you, invest into your relationship with the most important Being you will ever know, now. Let Him complete you now. Let Him work in you now. Serve Him will all you are now. Be encouraged. Most of you will probably be in a relationship eventually. But don't forget, you are already in one now! And it is with someone who is unlike any other person you will ever come across. Trust me.